I Am Here. I Am Whole. I Am Enough.

For the first time in my life, I can feel these words settling into my bones, not just something to say, but something that finally feels real to me.

It’s taken so many years to get here, so long that I didn’t even realize how deep that old belief had sunk in, the one that said I wasn’t enough, that there was something wrong with me that made me unlovable.

Abandonment from the very beginning can do that to you.

It can convince you that if the people who were supposed to love you the most didn’t want you, then there must be something in you that can’t be loved at all.

But I see it differently now.

I know that healing is possible, even if it doesn’t look like a perfect fix.

It doesn’t erase what came before, it doesn’t make the past feel any less heavy, but it opens up a space inside me that wasn’t there before, a place where I can stand and feel that I belong to myself.

And that’s what matters most.

It isn’t an easy road, it’s messy and painful and there are days I still wonder if I’ll ever really trust it, but it’s worth it.

It’s worth it for the peace I feel in my own body.

It’s worth it because I know now that I don’t have to be anyone’s emotional ATM, and I don’t have to keep trying to prove my worth to people who couldn’t see it.

If you’re reading this and carrying that same old ache, the one that tells you you’re too much or too little or too broken to be loved, let these words be a gentle reminder that you don’t have to earn your place in this world.

You are here, and you’re allowed to take up space.
You are whole, even with the parts of you that are still healing.
You are enough, always.

-Maria

Boundaries with Family: The Hardest Lines to Draw

Boundaries with family can feel like betrayal. They can feel like you are breaking an unspoken contract to keep the peace at any cost. But here is the truth: family is not an excuse to erase yourself.

For many of us, boundaries were never taught. They simply did not exist in the world we grew up in. It was just how things were: you gave up parts of yourself because there was no room to be fully seen. You learned to keep the peace by disappearing.

Boundaries with family are about saying, “I am here, and I am allowed to take up space, even if it makes you uncomfortable.” They are about learning to protect what is real for you, not what is convenient for everyone else.

Here are some ways to start:

• Name what is yours and what is not -  You do not have to carry the weight of other people’s expectations or disappointments.

• Start small - Boundaries do not have to be loud or dramatic. A quiet “no” is enough.

• Hold the line, even when it is hard -  Family will push back. That does not mean you are wrong to draw the line.

• Stay grounded in your own truth -  Remind yourself: you are allowed to have needs, even if no one taught you how.

• Remember that boundaries are not cruelty -  They are care for yourself, and for the relationships you want to keep real.

Journal Prompts:

• What boundary with family feels most impossible to set?

• What would it feel like to choose myself in that moment?

• What is the cost of not setting this boundary?

Affirmations:

• My needs matter, even in family.

• I do not have to trade my peace for their comfort.

• I can say no with love and still be whole.

• I am allowed to have limits, even if they are not understood

• My boundaries keep me safe. That is enough

• I am allowed to respond to others in my own time.

• I am allowed to not explain myself if I do not want to.

• I am allowed to choose what I prefer, even if my family disagrees

• I am allowed to give myself the space I need to feel peace.

I grew up in a world where no one had boundaries. No one taught them to me, and I never saw them practiced. Writing this is a way of reminding myself that I can choose them now, even if it feels unnatural.

-Maria